Tuesday, September 6, 2016

A Tale of Two Narcissists


Narcissists are people who love themselves.  They are at the center of their own universe.  They are certain that they are better than others and are capable of great things.  As they see it, they always know best.
We have had more than a few narcissistic chief executives.  Bill Clinton was one.  Barack Obama is another.  Franklin Delano Roosevelt also fit this category.  On the other hand, Harry Truman and Dwight Eisenhower did not.  Neither did John F. Kennedy.  Although he had a sense of entitlement, his Addison’s Disease kept him humble.
During the past year, if has been widely recognized that Donald Trump is a narcissist.  Obviously, anyone who praises his own accomplishments so effusively, while flaunting his name at the top of so many buildings, could be nothing less.  The question is, is Hillary Clinton also a narcissist?
To me, the answer is obvious.  A person who congratulates herself so frequently on phantom achievements is demonstrably preoccupied with her own wonderfulness.  She certainly believes that she always knows best and has done more to serve others than almost anyone on the planet.
The issue is, therefore, not which of these presidential candidates is a narcissist, but what kinds of narcissist they are.  Hillary, in my estimation, is a selfish and mean-spirited one.  She has no compunctions about hurting people.  If they get in her way, she does not hesitate to destroy their careers and/or reputations.
As a result, her political path has been strewn with the wreckage of many innocent lives.  This occurred early on when she got a felon off for raping a young girl.  She did it again when she protected Bill from Bimbo eruptions.  Private investigators were literally dispatched to discover information that would discredit the women with whom he had liaisons—whether consensual or not.
Moreover, Hillary does not work well with others.  She must be the Queen Bee.  This was why HillaryCare went down in flames.  Although members of a Democratically controlled Congress were sympathetic to public health care, they resented her for the disrespect they experienced at her hands.  They wanted to be consulted, whereas she felt this was unnecessary.
What then of Trump?  What sort of narcissist is he?  By most accounts, he is genial in private.  He listens to people and is gracious in how he treats them.  Although he unquestionably wants to be the star, he apparently has no desire to make all the decisions.
It must be remembered that Trump has been a businessman, not a politician.  If he could not put up buildings under budget, he would have gone bankrupt.  Politicians, on the other hand, deal in promises.  If these go aglimmering, they simply issue updated promises.
Like many observers, I have also been impressed by Trump’s children.  They are obviously strong personalities who dearly love him.  Hence I have no doubt that he loves them.  What is more, he clearly did not quash their independent spirits.  He even allowed them play on his office floor as he conducted business.
Contrast this with Clinton.  Her daughter Chelsea seems to be a nice woman, but she is evidently not as assertive as the Trump kids.  Indeed, her description of her mother during the Democratic National Convention sent chills down my spine.  Chelea sought to demonstrate how loving her mother is, whereas, for me, her testimony did the opposite.
What I heard was that when Hillary went away on business trips—which was apparently often—she left behind a series of notes for her daughter.  Each was labeled to be opened on a different day and purportedly offered encouragement.  I, however, was struck by the impersonality of this procedure.
When I put these pieces together, I find Trump to be a nicer person.  Hillary boasts about how compassionate she is, but does not seem to live this in her personal life.  Meanwhile, he seems to be caring on a human level.  This leads me to suspect that, narcissist or not, his instincts will prompt him to make better decisions as president.
Melvyn L. Fein, Ph.D.
Professor of Sociology

Kennesaw State University

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